NLP Consultant ...dr.vandana raguvanshi, Chandigarh

Pain in your neck.

If you feel pain in your neck, you may have trouble forgiving others or yourself. If you’re feeling neck pain, consider the things you love about people.

The definition of happiness and the determination of the means for achieving it, belongs to you and YOU ONLY.

"The road to success is not a superhighway. It is a rugged mountain trail found only by visionaries and travelled only by the most courageous and persevering.Success is the sum of your good daily, weekly, monthly and yearly decisions and actions.But the most important part is that When you can meet success and failure with the same dignity , then you are a mature Soul " .

ध्वनि और सात चक्र ================ ऊर्जा का ध्वनि रूप कभी नष्ट नहीं होता । आज भी विज्ञान कृष्ण की गीता को आकाश से मूल रूप में प्राप्त करना चाहता है । ध्वनि की तरंगे जल तरंगों की तरह वर्तुल (गोलाकार) रूप में आगे बढ़ती हैं । सूर्य की किरणें सीधी रेखा में चलती हैं, इनका मार्ग कोई भी अपारदर्शी माध्यम अवरुद्ध कर सकता है । जल तरंगें जल तक ही सिमित रहती हैं । लेकिन ध्वनि तरंगों को कोई माध्यम रोक नहीं पाता है । गर्भस्त शिशु भी ध्वनि स्पंदनों ग्रहण कर अभिमन्यु बन जाता है । प्रकृति ने शरीर को सात धातुओं में, सात चक्रों में , सप्तांग गुहाओं में श्रेणीबद्ध किया है ।ध्वनि को भी सात सुरों से अलंकृत किया है । सम्पूर्ण ब्रम्हाण्ड जो की ध्वनि अर्थात नाद पर ही आधारित है, सात ही लोकों में बटा हुआ है ।यथा: भु - भुव: - स्व: - मह: - जन: - तप: - सत्यम् ।शरीर के सात चक्रों की तुलना भी इन सात लोकों से की गयी है । जैसे सृष्टि और प्रकृति में संतुलन जरुरी है, उसी प्रकार शरीर तथा चक्रों में संतुलन आवश्यक है ।प्रत्येक चक्र पर वर्णमाला के वर्ण भी अभिव्यक्त होते हैं। इन वर्णों का , सात सुरों के स्पंदनों का चक्रों से विशिष्ठ सम्बन्ध होता है । दूसरी ओर प्रत्येक चक्र से शरीर के कुछ अवयव जुड़े हुए हैं । चक्र शरीर के विशेष शक्ति केंद्र हैं , अत: इनसे ही , आश्रित अवयवों की क्रियाओं का नियंत्रण होता है । अवयवों के रोगग्रस्त होने की दशा में चक्रों का संतुलन भी बिगड़ जाता है । चक्रों का सीधा सम्बन्ध हमारे आभामंडल से होता है । इसी आभामंडल से हमारा मन निर्मित होता है । आभामंडल अपने चारों ओर के वायुमंडल से ऊर्जाएं ग्रहण करता है । यहाँ से सारी ऊर्जाएं चक्रों से गुजरती हुई विभिन्न अंगों , स्नायु कोशिकाओं में वितरित होती है । मूलाधार और सहस्त्रार को छोड़कर सभी चक्र युगल रूप में होते हैं । एक भाग आगे की ओर तथा दूसरा भाग पीठ की ओर । साधारण अवस्था में सभी चक्र घड़ी की दिशा में घूमते हैं । हर चक्र की अपनी गति होती है । इसमें होने वाले स्पंदनों की आवृति ( frequency ) के अनुरूप ही चक्र का रंग होता है । चक्र का आगे वाला भाग गुण - धर्म से जुड़ा है । पृष्ठ भाग गुणों की मात्रा , स्तर और प्रचुरता से जुड़ा होता है । युगल का संगम रीढ़ केंद्र होता है । जहाँ इडा - पिंगला भी मिलती हैं । यही केंद्र अंत:स्रावी ग्रंथि (endocrine gland) से जुड़ा होता है । अनंत आकाश से तथा सूर्य से आने वाली ऊर्जाएं हमारे आभामंडल और चक्रों के समूह के माध्यम से हमारे स्थूल शरीर में प्रवेश करती है । अंत:स्रावी ग्रंथियों के नाम एवम् स्थान:- ======================== चक्र ग्रंथि स्थान --------- ----------- -------------- 7 सहस्त्रार पीनियल कपाल 6 आज्ञा पिच्युटरी (पीयुशिका) भ्रूमध्य 5 विशुद्धि थायराईड (गलग्रंथी) कंठ 4 अनाहत थायमस (बाल्य ग्रंथि) ह्रदय 3 मणिपूर पेनक्रियज (अग्नाशय) नाभि 2 स्वाधिष्ठान एड्रिनल ( जनन ग्रंथि) पेडू 1 मूलाधार गोनाड (अधिब्रक्क) रीढ़ का अंतिम छोर कार्य क्षेत्र ======= सहस्रार - ऊपरी मस्तिष्क, दाहिनी आँख, स्नायु तंत्र, शरीर का ढांचा, आत्मिक धरातल, सूक्ष्म ऊर्जा सइ सम्बन्ध, पूर्व जन्म स्मृति आदि । भ्रूमध्य - ग्रंथियों की कार्य प्रणाली, प्रतिरोध क्षमता, चेहरा तथा इन्द्रियों के कार्य, अंत:चक्षु , चुम्बकीय क्षेत्र, प्रज्ञा आदि । विशुद्धि - स्वर यंत्र , श्वसन तंत्र , अंत:श्रवण, टेलीपेथी, अंतर्मन आदि । अनाहत - रोग निरोधक क्षमता, ह्रदय, रक्त प्रवाह , दया - करुणा का केंद्र, अन्य प्राणीयों के प्रति सम्मान भाव आदि । मणिपुर - पाचन तंत्र, यकृत, तिल्ली , नाड़ी तंत्र , आंतें , बायाँ मस्तिस्क, बौद्धिक विकास आदि । स्वाधिष्ठान - प्रजनन तंत्र, गुर्दे , मूत्र , मल, विष विसर्ज्ञन, भावनात्मक धरातल, सूक्ष्म स्तर आदि । मूलाधार - विसर्जन तंत्र , रीढ़ , पैर ,प्रजनन अंग, जीवन ऊर्जा का मूल केंद्र, भय मुक्ति, शक्ति केंद्र । सातों केन्द्रों के रंग भी इन्द्रधनुष के रंगों के क्रम में होते हैं । हर रंग ध्वनि तरंगों की आवृति से बनता है । यह वैज्ञानिक तथ्य है । अत: हम ध्वनि तरंगों की आवृति नियंत्रित करके चक्र विशेष को प्रभावित कर सकते हैं । ध्वनि की अवधारणा में शब्द और भाव संगीत पर सवार होते हैं । अलग-अलग श्रेणी के शब्द जब संगीत की लय , ताल , और स्वर से मिलते हैं, तब विभिन्न चक्रों पर उनका प्रभाव भिन्न - भिन्न होता है । अस्वस्थ व्यक्ति के चक्रों का स्वरुप असंतुलित होता है । गति, आवृति, रंग, आभामंडल आदि संतुलित नहीं होते । तब संगीत की लय, भावनाओं के साथ जुड़कर संतुलन को ठीक करने का क्रम शुरू किया जाता है । कई बार रोग की स्थिति में असंतुलित चक्र सूक्ष्म शरीर से ऊर्जा खींचकर स्वस्थ होने का प्रयास करता है । रंगों की तरह संगीत के सात सुर भी सातों केन्द्रों से जुड़े होते हैं । प्रत्येक स्वर की आवृति , ताल, भी हर चक्र की अलग-अलग होती है । शब्द, भाव और ध्वनि अविनाभाव( आपस में संयुक्त ) होते हैं ।एक को बदलने पर शेष दोनों भी बदल जाते हैं । ध्वनि की एक विशेषता यह है कि ये चारों ओर फैलती जाती है । प्रत्येक व्यक्ति के शरीर से गुजरती जाती है । इसी प्रकार प्रत्येक व्यक्ति की ध्वनि भी हमारे शरीर से गुजरती रहती है । अत: हर व्यक्ति एक दूसरे को परिष्कृत करता जाता है । शब्द और ध्वनि मिलकर भावनाओं को ऊर्ध्वगामी बनाते हैं । इसी के साथ संगीत के सुरों का क्रम गहन से गहनतम होता जाता है । व्यक्ति खो जाता है । संगीत के स्पंदन और उसका गुंजन मणिपुर चक्र के माध्यम से शरीर में फैलता है । गर्भस्थ शिशु के साथ माँ का संवाद नाभि के जरिये ही बना रहता है । सातों सुरों का प्रभाव सीधा भी भिन्न-भिन्न केन्द्रों पर पड़ता है । नीचे मूलाधार पर "सा " , स्वाधिष्ठान पर " रे " , मणिपूर पर " ग " , अनाहत पर " म " , विशुद्धि पर " प " , तथा आज्ञा चक्र पर " ध " , के साथ सहस्त्रार पर " नि " का प्रभाव अलग-अलग सुर-लय के साथ पड़ता रहता है । मूलाधार शरीर की ऊर्जाओं का केंद्र है । ताल के साथ तरंगित होता है । तबला, ढोल, मृदंग जैसे संगीत पर थिरकता है । स्वाधिष्ठान भावनात्मक धरातल मूलाधार तथा मणिपुर के साथ स्पंदित होता है । लय हमेशां भावनात्मक भूमिका में कार्य करती है । अत: ऊपर अनाहत को भी प्रभावित करती है । विशुद्धि और अनाहत भीतरी सूक्ष्म शक्तियों का मार्ग खोलते हैं । आज्ञा-सहस्त्रार आत्मिक धरातल का संतुलन, शरीर-मन-बुद्धि का संतुलन , दृश्य-द्रष्टा भावों के प्रतिमान हैं । इनमें सुर-ताल-लय के साथ भावों का जुड़ना जरुरी है । विश्व भर में आज संगीत चिकित्सा की बहुत चर्चा है । संगीत चिकित्सा के अनुसार ताल शारीरिक और सुर भावनात्मक क्षेत्र को तथा लय बद्धता अंत:क्षेत्र को प्रभावित करते हैं । ध्वनि प्रत्येक चक्र की ऊर्जाओं को संतुलित करते हुए व्यक्ति को मन-वचन-शरीर से निरोग व आस्थावान बनाये रखती है।

योगवाशिष्ठ ग्रन्थ को महारामायण के नाम से भी जाना जाता है क्यों कि इसमेें महर्षि वाशिष्ठ ने भगवान् श्री राम को जीवन विज्ञान और योग विज्ञान की शिक्षा दी है ।उसमें ये बताया है कि चिज्जड़ ग्रंथि के टूटने पर सभी चक्र जाग्रत हो जाते हैं ।चिज्जड़ यानि (चित्त + जड़) अर्थात् चेतना का जड़ से पृथकता का अनुभव होना ।यही बात योगदर्शन के विभुतिपाद में वर्णित की गयी है ।अब चेतना की जड़ता से पृथकता कैसे हो इसके लिए एक विधि है , जो लिपिबद्ध नहीं की जा सकती ।योग दर्शन की किसी भी जिज्ञासा के लिए आपका स्वागत है ।......by Dr. Surendra Nath Panch

योग निद्रा ------------------- योग निद्रा एक परम् उत्कृष्ट निद्रा है, इसका अभ्यास हो जाने से मनुष्य के त्रिदोष सम्यक अवस्था में हो जाते हैं और व्यक्ति आदर्श स्वास्थ्य एवम् सौन्दर्य से युक्त रहता हुआ अतिशय सुखी, शांत ,प्रसन्न और आनंदित रहता है । योग निद्रा के लाभ =========== 1. योग निद्रा के अभ्यास से शारीरिक, मानसिक और भावनात्मक तनाव समाप्त हो जाते हैं । 2. एक - एक अंग की निष्क्रियता दूर होकर , उसमें नई चेतना और नई शक्ति का संचार होता है । 3. शरीर, मन और मस्तिष्क के रोग जैसे :- तनाव , मधुमेह , रक्तचाप , ह्रदय रोग तथा कमजोरी आदि से छुटकारा मिल जाता है । 4. योग निद्रा के अभ्यास से मन पर नियंत्रण होने लगता है । मन को स्थिर करके बहुत सी शक्तियां और सिद्धियाँ प्राप्त हो जातीं हैं । 5. योग निद्रा के अभ्यास से व्यक्ति में आलस्य नहीं रहता है, वह सदा सक्रिय रहता है । कार्य करने की शक्ति उसमें बराबर बनी रहती है । 6. योग निद्रा अंतर्मन में उतरने की सर्वसुलभ क्रिया है । इसके अभ्यास से व्यक्ति को निर्मलता , निश्चलता एवम् शांति प्राप्त होती है तथा मन , मष्तिष्क और स्नायु मंडल को शान्ति एवं शक्ति मिलती है । 7. इसके अभ्यास से व्यक्ति जहाँ अंतर्मन में गहरे उतर सकता है, वहीं साधना की ऊंची उड़ान भी भर सकता है और तन-मन में अद् भुद ताजगी एवं आनंद का अनुभव कर सकता है । 8. अभ्यास परिपक्व होने पर बहुत से रहस्य व्यक्ति के समक्ष उजागर होते जाते हैं । @सावधान +++++++ यह योग निद्रा पूर्णत: लेखनीबद्ध नहीं हो सकती है । ये एक अत्यंत ही प्रभावशाली योग है , इसे किसी विशेषज्ञ के निर्देशन में सीख लेना चाहिए ।।

“आपकी प्रतिभा, आपको भगवान का दिया गया उपहार है। आप इसके साथ क्या करते हैं, यह आपके द्वारा भगवान को दिया गया उपहार होता है।” लियो बुसकैजलिया

हर विचार एक बीज है – Every Thought is a Seed| हमारे पास दो तरह के बीज होते है सकारात्मक विचार (Positive) एंव नकारात्मक विचार (Negative Thoughts) है, जो आगे चलकर हमारे दृष्टिकोण एंव व्यवहार रुपी पेड़ का निर्धारण करता है| हम जैसा सोचते है वैसा बन जाते है (What we think we become) इसलिए कहा जाता है कि जैसे हमारे विचार होते है वैसा ही हमारा आचरण होता है| यह हम पर निर्भर करता है कि हम अपने दिमाग रुपी जमीन में कौनसा बीज बौते है| थोड़ी सी चेतना एंव सावधानी से हम कांटेदार पेड़ को महकते फूलों के पेड़ में बदल सकते है|

Thinking...Determines your attitude... Disciplining ...is practicing good habit slowly.. Listening...is putting yourself in others shoes....

Sweat and Tears... Both sweat and tears are wet and salty, but they render a different result. Tears will get you only sympathy but Sweat will get you change...

May be ...the best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with , never say a word , and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.

Enthusiasm...."There are no ordinary people ...and ordinary jobs...For enthusiasm can transform the most dreary obligation into a crusade , and life should be a crusade."....Vincent Norman Peale.

We can,t all be captains, we,ve got to be crew, There is something for all of us here, There is a big work to do and there is lesser to do,the task we must do is the near, Be the best of whatever you are....

The art of happy living..... Be true to youself...Accept your limitation. Live joyfully...You have the right to be happy. Learn the healing power of Forgiveness. Forgive your mistakes...Don't hold a grudge against yourself.

"Love is not finding someone to live with.It's finding someone you can't live without"......Rafael Ortiz

Everything in God's Creation proves God exists - it's perfection , in organization , it's harmony, it's unity and balance

Talent and Tact.... Talent is Power, Tact is skill... Talent is wait, Tact is momentum... Talent knows what to do, Tact knows how to do... Talent makes man/women respectable, Tact makes him/her acceptable... Talent is pleased that it ought to hsve succeeded, Tact is delighted it has succeeded....

It’s important when we’re facing something that’s really hard for us, whether it’s doing taxes, paying bills, or visiting a challenging relative, that we lovingly support ourselves through the process. The more supported we feel, the easier it is to open our minds to the idea that we could change our way of looking at the situation. In truth, most of the chores we don’t like doing are intimately intertwined with our blessings. When we remember this, we feel gratitude, which makes it hard to stay in a dark mood. We can shift our attitude by considering how much we love our home as we clean it and how lucky we are to have a roof over our head. Any task can be transformed from a burden to a necessary aspect of caring for something we love. All we have to do is shift our perspective, and our attitude follows shortly behind.

If you determine that there is only one route to securing your goals and dreams despite some difficulties, you have a choice to view that path positively or negatively. Since you have to take that path , why not look at it positively ?

When we sit down to center ourselves we can imagine that we are gathering our straying thoughts & energies back into ourselves, the way a mother duck gathers her babies around her. We can also visualize ourselves casting a net & pulling all the disparate parts of ourselves back to the center of our being, creating a sense of fluid integration. From this place of centeredness, we can begin again, directing ourselves outward in a more intentional way.

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Energy Vampires: How to Escape

Toxic people are not only energetically draining, they have a direct effect on our success & happiness.

Let’s face it, we are all vibrational beings. Surrounding ourselves with high vibrational, positive people, propels us onward & upward, raising the bar in life for us all to match.

When we slum it around low vibrational, negative people, we’re pulled down.

As my dad used to say, “water seeks it’s own level.”

Being a a loving compassionate person has nothing to do with slumming it vibrationally.

Where this dynamic sneaks up on us is in the realm of friendships. As we mature & experience life, we naturally grow & evolve, which means that our friendships must also adapt.

Sadly, sometimes it’s necessary to call a weed a weed in the garden of our friendships & do a little pruning. While it’s admirable to have life long friendships, the truth is, people change. Not everyone wants to take responsibility for the life they’re living & when toxic friends aren’t happy, they tend to pull everyone around them down too.

This isn’t about the friend that goes through a rough spot & needs some extra time & attention, it’s about the overview of your entire friendship. Has it been a back and forth volley or a one way serve?

If you have a huge heart & you’re a loving person, it’s easy to ignore the signs, but toxic people are easy to spot once you know what to look for.

So ask yourself:

1. Are you exhausted after spending time with them?

Give them an inch and they’ll take nine million miles. You know who I’m talking about. What starts as an innocuous conversation ends with you feeling tired & drained. What happened? A brief conversation with them happened.

Spend time at the water cooler sharing small talk & suddenly you’re ready for a nap. Talk to another mom on the school yard for ten minutes and you’re ready to put yourself down for the day.

2. Are you unable to fit a word in edgewise?

You know who I’m talking about: the phone call when you find yourself uh huh’ing repeatedly without actually having a conversation. Your friend goes negative on you and suddenly you’re listening to their list of woes in life & acting as a stand in therapist.

This isn’t about a friend in need or one going through transition, it’s about those people who talk at you rather than with you - all of the time.  

Admittedly it can be hard to stay in touch with how you’re feeling as toxic friends can be sneaky and subtle, but when someone wants to complain instead of problem solve, pull out your sword & start trimming your time with them.

3. Speaking of time, are people respecting yours? Are you?

Some people will drone on & on even when you’ve said you’re busy and can’t talk right now. In these times a sharper sword is needed. This is your time & ultimately your life, and right now it’s being filled with someone else’s sloppy boundaries.

4. How are you feeling? The biggest tool in your bag IS your body.

When you silently scan your body while talking to someone, you’ll either feel relaxed and in the moment, or you’ll be clenching something. If you’re holding your breath and looking desperately for a way to break into their long-winded speech, you are being talked at and sucked dry. This isn’t a sign of a healthy friendship.

Time with a healthy friend should leave you smiling, inspired and feeling full and happy.

5. Are you caught in the gossip trap?

Gossip might make you feel bonded to a friend, but it’s draining. Participating in gossip wilts your petals faster than any toxic friend could on their own because once you spill their gossip, you’re the one left holding the empty bag feeling terrible.

Avoid gossips at all costs by closing the door on people in your life that love to do it. Chances are they will eventually gossip about you anyways, so protect yourself.

6. Do you withhold positive news from them so they aren’t jealous?

True friends are happy when your life is going well. Toxic friends are jealous and will compare their own life to yours instead of celebrating your wins.

Disrespecting your time, constant negativity, gossiping, complaining rather than problem solving, jealousy, and routinely taking instead of giving are toxic behaviors for which boundaries were invented.

Clearing your life of toxic friendships takes courage, but if you trust your heart, time eventually delivers like- minded people into your life. And that my friend, is well worth the wait.

Our thoughts and feelings can so easily be influencing by how we perceive others .If we make a firm choice to always keep a positive vision of those around us , Then we will enjoy better relationships.

Here are ten things to help overcome negative thoughts .... 1. Meditate or do yoga. 2. Smile. 3. Surround yourself with positive people. .4. Change the tone of your thoughts from negative to positive. 5. Don’t play the victim. You create your life—take responsibility. 6. Help someone. 7. Remember that no one is perfect and let yourself move forward. 8. Sing. 9. List five things that you are grateful for right now. 10. Read positive quotes.

Here are ten things to help overcome negative thoughts .... 1. Meditate or do yoga. 2. Smile. 3. Surround yourself with positive people. .4. Change the tone of your thoughts from negative to positive. 5. Don’t play the victim. You create your life—take responsibility. 6. Help someone. 7. Remember that no one is perfect and let yourself move forward. 8. Sing. 9. List five things that you are grateful for right now. 10. Read positive quotes.

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I truly believe that everything that we do and everyone that we meet is put in our path for a purpose. There are no accidents; we're all teachers - if we're willing to pay attention to the lessons we learn, trust our positive instincts and not be afraid to take risks or wait for some miracle to come knocking at our door.......
                                                                                                                     Marla Gibbs

NLP CHANDIGARH, SCO 365, FF, SEC 44-D, CHD

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Remaining Relaxed During An Interview / Meeting 

A state of relaxed alertness will yield best results in an interview or an important meeting. To relax, you need to remove all sense of confrontation, instead see the meeting as a friendly fact finding exchange & an opportunity to talk quietly of your achievements. 

1. Think of your interviewer as someone with whom, very soon, you might find that you have a great deal in common – perhaps not a friend, but someone you enjoy talking to. 

2. If the questions become difficult, visualize the Supreme Being in the form of a person in the room – perhaps standing behind the interviewer. Imagine him as a friend urging you on, praising your handling of the situation, persuading you to succeed. 

3. If the interviewer seems unfriendly, say to yourself: it is because he or she has difficulty with the situation. Respond calmly & pleasantly. 

In a lot many of the different types of relationships we find ourselves in, may they be our personal relationships or at the workplace, we sometimes feel ourselves to be in a position where we feel we are being dominated & controlled negatively by the opposite person. A very common example of the above negative energy, in personal & non-personal relationships, is when someone gets angry with you & manages to make you react & get upset, they mange to dominate you. Over a period of time they start realizing that they possess an invisible & powerful remote control, using which, whenever they want to control you, what they should do is to get angry with you & that way they will achieve the desired control. Their anger becomes a remote control. When you react you are allowing this control or allowing the other's remote control to work. It is you that chooses to allow yourself to be influenced & dominated. It is important for us to realize that we can choose & take the decision to allow ourselves to be controlled & dominated, or we can choose to express what we feel without being affected by the reaction of the other & still maintaining our love, respect & good wishes for the other. Let us not allow ourselves to be dominated & influenced by entities external to us which includes objects & people or we will lose energy. Each moment we allow another person's remote control to work successfully or we allow an object to control and dominate our emotional state, we weaken internally. We become like a puppet in the other person's hands. A puppet is never powerful because it does not act on its own but is controlled by someone else. We need to prevent that, if we want to conserve our energy and remain spiritually strong. Meditation & spiritual knowledge both increase our spiritual strength & also increase our self esteem or self respect over a period of time. Both these increases help us remain in self control & not only disallow the other's remote control to work but also become assertive (not aggressive) & take a stand when required.

Read somewhere , like to share... Resolving The Inner Identity Crisis At the present moment in human history, almost every individual has lost the awareness of its real or true self. This has happened very gradually as each individual has progressed in its journey of birth-rebirth & has kept on attaching itself to various different things & as a result losing its sense of self in things that it is not i.e. identifying with things that it is not. In a way it can be said that this took the self far away from itself. This personal, internal identity crisis has led to a universal, external identity crisis, which has resulted in an emotional crisis resulting in peacelessness & sorrow in our inner world as well as in the outer world. This inner identity crisis is the root cause of the multitude of deformed emotions that exist inside us like anger, ego, lust, fear, comparison with others, greed, hatred, low self esteem, dependencies etc. all of which have brought us & keep on bringing us pain. We explain this with an example – suppose you have just constructed a new apartment. While making it & once its ready and you are using it, you have become excessively attached to it i.e. you have started identifying with it. Due to this false identification, the first emotion that gets created inside you is ego. If someone were to criticize the apartment even slightly, you would react immediately with anger. You constantly fear any sort of harm to the apartment. You even compare it with apartments that others possess. You also start looking down at people whose apartment is not as good as yours i.e. you create emotions of hatred for them. If something negative were to happen it, it affects your mental state immediately i.e. your happiness has become dependent on the material possession. Your temporary success along with the recognition that it brings you from others leads to the desire of more success of a similar type i.e. possess some more things - bigger & better, which is nothing but greed etc. The seed of all these incorrect emotions is my over-identification with this newly acquired possession. All of these wouldn’t exist inside me, if my relationship with was one of detachment with it. In this way, we identify with various objects & people in the whole day, which leads to the creation of such emotions inside us. This is how the confusions, complications & problems that exist in our world today & the state of human relationships all over the world, are simply a reflection of our lack of inner clarity about who we are, what we are & where we are heading i.e. a lack of true self-identity. So how do we resolve this internal & external turmoil? There is an original, beautiful self, with characteristics of peace, love & happiness that exists within each one of us, the self from which we have been distanced since a very long time. This is a center full of the spiritual resources of all virtues and powers. Reaching it is a journey of only one second & no distance. By identifying with this inner centre, a centre which is imperishable, unchangeable, constant & even eternal, my self identity becomes strong & stable, as compared to many false identities based on external realities like position, wealth & material possessions which are all perishable & subject to various ups & downs even in one single day, and if we over identify with them, we are bound to experience constant pain & discontentment. This process of true self-identification is not a renunciation or avoidance of the way the outer world is but it is a healing process for your inner world. It is an internal correction process of identification, whereby you rediscover your true self as a complete being full of positive emotions that you always were & you start identifying with it, doing which very easily helps you let go of the wrong identifications. This process is commonly called meditation, the foundation of which is spiritual wisdom. Once this inner work is done, the outer world starts taking the shape of a reflection of that. Resolving the identity crisis first changes the way our internal & external world looks to us, as a result changing the way it works.

The most important relationship we have in our lives is with our selves. And even though we are the only ones who are present at every moment of our lives from birth onward this relationship can be the most difficult one to cultivate. This may be because society places such emphasis on the importance of being in a romantic partnership, even teaching us to set aside our own needs for the needs of another. Until we know ourselves, however, we cannot possibly choose the right relationship to support our mutual growth toward our highest potential. By allowing ourselves to be comfortable with being alone, we can become the people with whom we want to have a relationship.

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Our relationship with others is about kindness. It is easy to act only in our perceived self-interest. We feel that if we do not look out for ourselves, who will? In an interrelated world, we are obliged also to look beyond ourselves. In the Talmud, Rabbi Hillel wrote, “If I am not for myself who will be? But if I am for myself only, what am I?” We are links in a chain. The fate of each link affects the fortunes of all others.

There is individuality but not independence. We are dependent upon each other at every turn. Our integrity affects the integrity of the whole.

We are each a part of a system of relationships that embrace our family, friends, neighbors, business associates, organizations, communities, nations, & family of nations. No single object or entity exists independently. What we do to others, we do to ourselves.

NLP THERAPIST , PANCHKULA....Life is so much more simple than most humans realize. It is not this journey that must be conquered, that must be understood. It is a journey that must be lived, only lived in the present moment day-to-day, here and now. And in the entirety of each moment, there may be feelings from the past, feelings from the future, all kinds of emotions that cannot be explained by the mind. Feeling and allowing those emotions is part of the living, part of the being.